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Last week, on what was supposed to be another uneventful day, our community was confronted with an event simply out of ordinary for us little people. One of our neighbors, a young girl in her early 20's killed herself.
Why? Apparently she was pregnant.
It shocked me because I simply cannot imagine what she might have been through, what were her thoughts while contemplating the very act itself, and how she might have suffered.
You see, I am a single mother myself.
Yes, I must admit that when I found out I was pregnant the thought has crossed my mind. But thank God I love life more and I also loved my child. Whatever pain and
sufferings that I went through while having her was completely gone when I saw her for the first time all bloody and squealing her little lungs out.
I have known some people who committed suicide. A lot of them simply did not manifest any strange behaviour prior to their death. Sometimes when I look back I
cannot help but think
"Did I miss something there? Was he/she
crying for help and I never saw it?"
But more so the reason for their suicide which is mostly unwanted pregnancy.
Yes it's tough going through with it all alone, facing your parents anger and disappointment, the disgrace and humiliation, the still continuing discrimination not just for single mothers but the stigma that affects your own child, as well as various other difficulties such as finances and education. But should it justify the act of killing not just yourself but your own child innocent of all your mistakes?
NO!
I do not judge anyone, I do not have that right, but I mourn for what could have been. A life that could have been different from what you expect. The joys of seeing your baby smile, call you Mama, the happiness that only your own child can bring is lost, never to be found again.
A life cut too short by human frailty.
7 comments:
What a waste, isn't it? How many more would surrender life due to perceived human judgement - Is this brought about by intolerant behaviour of the catholic church?
Half of the girls I know at work are single mothers. Marami sa kanila masaya naman at payapa sa buhay. The most powerful family in my clan is also a single mother so imagine mo na lang kung gaano ka-normal sa akin ang ganung set-up ng family.
Sa sobrang normal niya, I wouldn't mind becoming a single parent myself.
Hello sa kapatid ni sweetpea.
my youngest sister was crying when she told me she was four months pregnant.... i laughed, which made her cry even more.... sabi ko lang, bakit ako makikiiyak eh nanjan na yan... i just wished she told me earlier para hindi na siya nahirapan... then my other sister (yung sumunod sa kin), hindi makatalak, yun pala buntis din.... nakakaloka.... i'm just grateful na napakita ko sa kanila na kahit anong mangyari susuportahan sila ng ate/kuya nila kaya hindi sila nakaisip gumawa ng ano mang katarantaduhan na lalo pang magpapalala ng sitwasyon... ngayon, im a proud uncle/aunt to three little beautiful babies.... oo tatlo, kasi yung bunso naming kapatid na lalake, nabuntis din ang jowa.... ano magagawa ko, mana sila sa akin sa kalandian.....
i really feel sorry for the girl though......
sad. tragic. :(
@ Jase: Yes, what a waste. Well the church do play a major role in our society and sad to say the church has a lot of unrealistic rules that are not just helping like the controversy over contraceptives.
@ Knox Galen: Hi! Yup masaya kami because we know that what we have been through only makes us stronger.
@ Yj: Saya! Mel, my brother and my family was as supportive as you. I just wish that more families are like yours and mine.
@ Jericho: Yup so sad. Thanks.
@ Mel: Thanks paps!
I believe some people should not judge single mothers. Maraming single mothers na it's a matter of choice because of well, circumstances.
off-topic:
bumoto ka na ba sa top 10 emerging influential blogs of 2009 ni bb. janette toral
sa http://influentialblogger.net
kung hindi pa, isama mo naman ako sa top 10 mo at copy-paste mo na lang yung choice ni reyna elena.
isama mo na rin ang barrio siete (http://barriosiete.com). may 10 weeks pa para bumoto. ^_^
heto ang sample ballot ni reynz:
http://barriosiete.com/2nd-state-of-the-barrio-address-soba/
pumunta rin sa link na ito para sa mechanics:
http://www.influentialblogger.net/2009/05/join-top-10-emerging-influential-blogs.html
maraming salamat mel! *shyness*
Snow: actually hindi pa pero kasali ka po sa choices ko. hihi. Kokopyahin ko na lang siguro ang list ni ate reynz. =)
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